Dealing with toxic family 🥲

So I come from a long line of unsupportive yet judgmental family members, particularly my grandfather. He is the type that wants his grandchildren to have prestigious careers not because it’s something we want to do but it makes us trophies for him to brag about to his peers and church members.

For the longest time he pressured me to become a doctor when I really had no interest working in the clinical field at all, but whenever you do something that does not line up with his expectations of you it’s endless judgement, ridicule, and implying that you’re not worthy/good enough.

I vented to my dad about it who agrees with my grandfather’s approach saying that’s his way of pushing us to do better… I’m not sure how living vicariously through your grandchildren would encourage them, but they both STRESS me out.

My solution has been to just distance myself from him because I know he won’t change or even try to understand. Anyone else have family members like this?