25 weeks pregnant and cannot deal with my job anymore

I work from home, my job is not physically demanding, but I am part of a start-up and I’m mentally drained. Since we are a startup there’s no maternity leave other than fmla, so I’m already getting screwed on that (thanks America, you suck at taking care of your people).

But my boss is just on top of my every single day micromanaging, things change every single day, they keep changing policies and procedures. We also deal with a few other companies and they are just a nightmare to deal with. Our external client base is ridiculously needy and extremely rude, but our leadership sees absolutely no problem with them verbally insulting us.

I work about 50 hours a week, all from my home office which is great, but sometimes I don’t even get a lunch break because my boss will literally have 4 hour long zoom meetings. She never can just send an email EVERYTHING has to be a meeting to her.

This pregnancy is really just making me realize my focus. Im a military spouse and I’d really like to just quit and be a stay at home parent, I don’t provide health insurance and the military pays our mortgage, my entire paycheck is going to be going to daycare. I cannot deal with the stress anymore and I cannot deal with being treated like crap every day and pushed to my emotional and mental limits. It’s great being at home, but with the set schedule, project deadlines, and me doing the job of literally 6 people because we have not hired in for those jobs is infuriating. I also thought my boss, being a woman, would be understanding of my pregnancy. I also waited until 20 weeks to tell her because I didn’t want to deal with it. But instead she piles extra bullshit on my plate, because she’s one of those “women are superhero’s” kind of super feminists. Like, no bitch, I’m not a superhero right now, I cannot grow a person, work ridiculous hours and also do the job of 6 people, even tho you like to work nonstop, I do not.

I’ve talked to hr, but hr loves my boss, everyone is tight knit with it being a start up, and I’m also salary, so they can really fuck with my hours however they would like.

I’m mainly ranting. But I either need motivation to continue or a way to convince my husband to allow me to stay home (we can afford it, we have zero debt and enough in savings to last us over 2 years if we BOTH didn’t work.) my job pays me extremely well, but it’s not worth the stress, and with it being from home I cannot separate it. I’m constantly getting work emails and my desk is like right here. I’ve shut off my notifications s after 6 each day but then I come in the next day to stuff my boss literally sends be at 10pm.

I have talked to my husband also and he’s hesitant to let me quit, he keeps saying to just see how it goes when the baby is here. They agreed to let me work more flexible hours then, however, he’s still trying to convince himself I won’t need help or daycare. Like I cannot do my job and take care of a baby, sorry but no.