My Guy Friends Like me…Should I Tell My BF?

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So I’m in a friend group that’s majority guys. I almost always hangout with them when 1-2 of my other girl friends in the group come as well. I never hang with them alone even before I got a bf. (For contexts) 
Recently one of my guy friends invited us all over because he was going to the army for a while. I was the first to leave so he walked me out. We hugged goodbye and before I left he stopped me and told me he liked me and what stood in his way was my bf……Honestly all but one of my guy friends have expressed they liked me at one point or another and so I don’t hang with them alone but always in the group setting which isn’t very often. Don’t want to give the wrong impression as we all have been friends since high school. I mostly go because my best girl friend wants me to go and I genuinely enjoy hanging as JUST FRIENDS with everyone. 
I don’t like him and never have. I don’t like any of my guy friends. I used to have a crush on one like 12 years ago but that came and went a long time ago but now he likes me (Ironic). 
My guy friend told me he liked me 2 weeks ago but I didn’t mention to my bf because 1.) My guy friend is going away to the army for a while and 2.) He and my bf have never met. But then I think about how potentially they might meet as this is my childhood friend group that he may meet sometime….
So idk if I should mention that situation to him and mention my other guy friends too? Or if I should just not bring it up? I only ask because if it was me and one of his gal friends came onto him I’d want to know especially if she knew we were together. 
What are your thoughts?

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The question is why are you hiding this from your boyfriend?

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My policy for relationships is usually if it's something you would want them to do then you should do the same. If you would want him to tell you then you need to tell him.

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I would tell him, but i also wouldn’t be friends with guys that have said they like me out of respect for my boyfriend. i wouldn’t want him doing it, even if it was a group setting

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Always see how you would want things if the situation was reversed. Would you want your bf still hanging out with girls who have told him they like him at some point? To me there is no excuse. Doesn’t matter if they have known each other for 20 years, once you tell someone you like them, the line is crossed and i would never want my husband hanging out with those people after especially since he isnt even willing to tell me about any of it. It means he knows its wrong

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Of course you tell him- that’s basic respect, trust, and communication. I wouldn’t want my bf hanging around a group of girls all the time that all had feelings for him. He (so you in this situation) should be setting very firm boundaries with everyone I’d you choose to maintain these friendships. And your bf should be completely in the loop

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I actually stopped hanging out with several of my guy friends because of this. They rarely could keep it as just friends, and even if nothing actually happened, I wouldnt like it if my husband was hanging out with women whom he knows have a thing for him, because then it truly never is 'just friends'. It's "I long for you, but dont have you' at least for one person. 
Definitely tell him, because it can come across as lying by omission. It wasnt just a small flirt. He specifically said 'I want to be with you, but you have a boyfriend'. That isnt something you should just brush off. If a woman said that to my husband and he didnt tell me and I found out...and he continued to hang out with her and hug her goodbye....oh boy. That would jeopardize our marriage big time. I know youre not married...but still.

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I experienced the same situation I got along with the guys had a lot more fun but never had feelings for them just was a better setting it was always me and my sister or a couple of my girls almost all of them expressed there feelings and one of them expressed he fell in love with me and wanted to know if I felt anything back I definitely didn’t he was such an amazing man and friend but that’s all I saw him as I didn’t tell my bf who’s now my husband because of the drama that could follow 1 my feelings weren’t the same now if I felt anything towards another man 100% I would tell my bf 2 nobody was acting on those feelings wasn’t flirting was being 100% respectful I had a man if he wasn’t then there would be cause to inform my man and since I informed him that the feelings werent the same unfortunately in my case he avoided me and I lost one of my best friends not because of my bf or me but because he needed to let me go and I respected his decision Ultimately the choice is yours and only you can decide which would be best

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Yeah I’d mention it. Rather you tell him then him finding out through someone else or another way, just be honest with him about it. You have no reason to feel guilty about the situation because you’ve done nothing wrong or anything like that. If he trusts you & isn’t insecure about anything then he’ll understand! & as for the friend, sometimes you just have to get that off your mind & tell the person even though he knows nothing is going to happen & hopefully he doesn’t make things awkward if him & your boyfriend do have to meet ever. He needs to respect your relationship! As long as you set boundaries with your friend & you & your boyfriend trust each other then everything should be fine!

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