Venting

I’m wondering if I’m alone with this or not. My boyfriend includes his mom or grandma in our relationship when have any issues. They are always making me feel crazy basically he throws a fit when I don’t give him what he wants. Could be anything, there’s no limit with it. Well I’ve had enough. Nobody understands what I’m even saying. They think he’s always right. Now I wasn’t raised in the south or by people who was raised in the south so I think that’s part of the issue. Not saying I’m not close with my family but we have boundaries and certain things I feel is not my parentals business. They have their own issues they deal with. I’m by far from a person who enjoys drama. Anyways it just bothers me and my boyfriend says he doesn’t mean to do it. He’s an only child. His mom is working on her 3rd divorce and they have always babied this grown man. They use my reactions with things against me, making me feel like the bad guy always. They go out of the way to contact my family who just tells them “it ain’t my business”

Like for real, what is this? I feel like I’m being gaslight by an entire family. Granted I am no way near perfect. Tbh I think it’s a terrible situation. Apparently I made him mad one day and he punched a wall. I wasn’t there but they claim what I say has a ripple effect and causes him to do things. Like can someone please explain to me why I feel like I’m hanged up on or like why I feel like this entire family is out to make me look\feel crazy? I for the life of me do not understand. I am a caring loyal person who just wants to be happy.