Husband doesn’t like that I’ve dated black men before him but wants me to tell him how much I “like black 🍆” in bed.

My husband is Hispanic and I’m white. Before we ever got married he knew I had dated several black men and told me in his family that is frowned upon, (like his uncles would tease his cousin who also had dated black men) I’m like yeah this is the 21st century they can get over it. Well after we got married there have been times when he has gotten drunk and he has called me horrible names over this when drunk( like n***** lover) but yet in bed he wants me to talk about “how much I love black 🍆” because he says it turns him on and makes him cum harder. I just 🤯 flat out told him no that’s messed up and he hasn’t brought it up in a while and also stopped drinking (sober 7 months now) but last night he brought it up again while we were being intimate (dead sober) and I’m just done. Like since he stopped drinking I’m trying to give him the benefit of the doubt that he’s at least working on himself but like he doesn’t get it. Like it doesn’t matter to him that it’s hurtful to me and a complete and utter turn off. Would that be considered emotional abuse?? Also he amazingly denies being racist. 😤🙄. I know. I picked a winner. 🤦🏼‍♀️😒😠 I wish he had shown me his true colors before we got married. 💔Even though he has stopped drinking and trying to be better I see divorce in my future more and more.