*heads up long post, sorry in advance*

So a couple weeks ago my husband and I got into an argument. Just for reference I was at my job, at a bridal store (which I was finishing out my last week at since we decided it would be best for me to stay home at the moment with our kids since he just got a new job that has been very unpredictable with his work hours) closing for the night and he was coming to pick me up since he took my car to get new registration for me earlier in the day so I didn’t need to do it (we recently moved to another state). Anyway, I texted him to make sure he was coming to pick me up and he said yes and asked if I saw our youngest have any gummies (me thinking he was talking about their fruit snacks) before I went to work and I told him No I didn’t see her have any. Turns out he meant her melatonin gummies that we give her sometimes before bed when she can’t settle down for the night. We had just purchased a new bottle the day before and had I think 75 count in the container and he’d counted 30 something when he found it. Once I got in the car he was upset that I didn’t freak out about her eat that much and that I wasn’t a good mom for being worried. I start crying right away because I didn’t know at that point the extent of what had happened and how much ( which she is alright, I ended up staying up almost all night next to her and made sure she was okay as week as called our nurses line first thing to see I needed to bring since we didn’t want to rely on the internet to tell us what it meant to have that much melatonin) he called me selfish and a bad mom and that I try to manipulate him with my tears. It basically turned into him screaming at me and I just cried the whole time. I felt like utter shit. I didn’t talk to him for a few days hoping he would apologize or at least talk to me but he acted like it never even happened after we got home. He didn’t say anything about me not talking either, so I can only assume he knew why I wasn’t talking to him and choose not to say anything. This isn’t the first time that he has verbally gone off on me. I feel like I can never do anything right. Anytime we argue it’s always my fault and he isn’t the one that’s wrong. I don’t do the blame game either but I just don’t know what to do. His family has a history of anger issues (NEVER PHYSICAL) think of it almost like guy version of a Karen but only when they get mad about something. He is an amazing dad, just gets lazy and I ended up doing everything from cleaning, cooking, to wake and bedtime because he is either working or gets on his Xbox to play with friends. Mostly we are good together and I love him so much but it’s been a few weeks since this argument happened and I can’t stop thinking of all the awful things he said that night. Am I overreacting and need to let it go and just realize he was upset and scared and took it out on me? Or talk to him and hopefully explain how he made me feel? I just don’t know what to do