I cant i just cant

This is my 4th and last baby, we decided not to find out the gender till we have the baby. First off my in laws were not happy we were having another baby, then they were mad we didn’t want to find out the gender now they are mad that we don’t want a baby shower or anything because we don’t know the gender. Also everyone in my side of the family is taking it quit well even the fact that they won’t get to meet the baby in person till he/she is at least 2 months because of COVID but my in laws said they don’t care they will meet the baby when they want. I’m so over this, I can’t ever enjoy a pregnancy without these people making a big deal about everything and making sure they are 10000% the victims of every situation