Blacklisted

So my partner and I have been together going on two years. We have a 3 year age gap. And he is the oldest in the family. Our relationship is great. We have never fought and in a short amount of time we bought a house together. Have two dogs together and still absolutely are in love each other. We struggle being apart from each other. This is relevant to the rest of the story.

Last august we had only been dating a few months. And my partners brother whom is my age gets married to a girl that no one liked. They were off and on through the entire engagement and now they’re pregnant. This brother is a self absorbed asshole. He loves to mooch off my partner who makes extremely good money for his age. At this wedding I was made to help out. Excluded from pictures as the brothers wife viewed me as competition. Which whatever, to be frank I will not allow the brother and his wife and child attend our wedding. They have since made every event about themselves.

My partners sister then gets married. She’s even younger. I get along with he great. But the married brother was officiating the wedding. He proceeded to talk shit about his sisters fiancés family. Racist gross stuff when they were five feet away. Again at this point I’m still not treated great by this family. I was incredibly sick. Advised not to travel and work in any kind of way . Guess who cleaned up after both weddings. Or who was made to style his sisters hair although I had never been asked. And who got barked at to fix it the entire night? Me. I was treated by my partners parents that me being I’ll wasn’t a big deal and I needed to toughen up. I was taking four extremely strong medications that zonked me out. I stayed to myself all weekend. And would throw up all night. There is so much more to this story but I am so tired of my partners family. They don’t acknowledge that we will be getting married hopefully soon as well. And are obsessed with the brother. Who has little to no money and who they are paying for everything for this child. My partner and I talked about how I was treated and he realized it wasn’t right as well. I told him I no longer want to drive five hours to see his parents. We did this once a month. And he agrees and doesn’t want to either. However now they are staying at our house for spring break. And it’ll be the same thing. They will compliment my partner on everything when I’m the one who cleans/decorates etc. And he will admit to that. I unpacked this entire house. I really don’t want to see them for a few months. I don’t know what I did to be treated like crap? Maybe because they’re super religious and I’m agnostic as can be? But they don’t know that. So that shouldn’t be it. Maybe because my partner is the oldest and last son To get married? I don’t know. But I’m not excited for them being here. I’m thinking about going and staying with my parents the week they are here. But alas my boyfriend wants me to stay with him. What do I do.