Breakup.. was it the right thing? Need reassurance/opinions :(

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We dated for about 8 months… I know this is really bad that we broke up 6 times in those 8 months.. there was always a reason though. I just want reassurance that this was the right thing.. I’m honestly hurt, I’m really sad. I deserve someone who reciprocates energy and treats me the way I deserve to be treated.. without me having to BEG for change.
- His family is trash, I don’t have time for drama/bs in my life
- He wasn’t making me happy/didn’t meet my standards
- My birthday was horrible, he NEVER reciprocated energy… really hurt my feelings that he didn’t put forth effort. Disappointed me to the MAX
- Constantly accused me of cheating/being with others when I was with family.. aswell as seeing nothing has changed even though I’ve brought it up multiple times..
- He threatened to breakup with me, then got mad at me saying “you don’t even care”, started talking crap and called me “stupid”
- We got into an argument, the past couple of days he’s been annoyed with me and hasn’t wanted to talk to me or even hangout with me…he ended things because of our argument

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If you broke up 6 times than yes.

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Ofc it was! Read your points. All of this in only 8 months?! Is that stuff what you want to deal with for the test if your life? You definitely made the right decision. This was not a great relationship. It hurts bc loss hurts, no matter what it was.

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Yea, sounds like it shouldn't have even lasted 8 months. My husband and I broke up exactly once after almost 2 years of dating. Then did long distance dating for almost 3 years because of moves 10 hours away. He regretted it and will never ever do it again. Thus marriage. Don't waste your time on bull shit men who play little boy games. No one has time for that

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It may hurt right now and that’s completely normal! You’re grieving a future that you thought you were going to have. Take time for yourself and treat yourself. We all process breakups different, so just remember that it will hurt a little less every day, until eventually you won’t even think about it anymore. You’ll thank yourself for not settling! 💓

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No you definitely made the right decision!!

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Yeah definitely, the only wrong thing was going back 5 or 6 times! 
I mean, he doesn't meet your standards, you feel you deserve better, and he's toxic. 
Like do you want what you deserve or has this situation fulfilled you in some way? What have you been looking for in this relationship? 
I'd definitely say don't go back!

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You made the right decision hun, and you dodged a bullet. Within the 8 months he began to show you his true colours. Narcissistic, manipulative, and abusive behaviours; and that was just the beginning, had you stayed and continued…down the road it would have gotten far worse. Had you stayed and continued, he would’ve broke you down and made you feel worthless and more. 
You stood your ground, you didn’t settle for less, you know and knew your worth and stood up for your standards. Be proud of yourself, I sure am proud of you. I know that you’re hurt, breakups hurt; But you will rise up again, and the hurt will lessen a little everyday. Pursue your goals, live your life, and move forward! 
You know there is better out there, that there is healthy relationships ahead of you. So yes, you made the right decision walking away from him :) 
He simply just isn’t worth your time hun.

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Yes breaking up for good is the right thing. All that break up/makeup crap is extremely unhealthy and toxic. Don’t continue the negative relationship pattern the two of you created. It’s not good for either of you.

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Yes you made the right decision, way too much drama and BS. Think of yourself as spared of the BS, don’t think of it of what you lost, think of it what you’ve gained, your sanity, your happiness, the relief of not having to deal with crap anymore. It’s a blessing in disguise. Take some time to yourself, to heal from all that crap, exercise is the best way to deal, because somebody releases endorphins, serotonin, dopamine, all the feel good hormones. Same thing listen to your favorite music, put on your favorite happy dance music. We can’t help but get up and dance. Don’t torture yourself and send music or movies, don’t sabotage your own happiness, block and delete him on everything so you don’t have to see him MoveOn, keep yourself busy, do all the things you’ve always wanted to do. The only one that limits you is yourself.  Enjoy life, spend time with friends and family or pets. Never allow loneliness or desperation to be the reason that you settle for less than you deserve. Deserve happiness, you deserve love, and you are worthy of more than just the crap you had.

Breakup.. was it the right thing? Need reassurance/opinions :(

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