My boyfriend complains literally every day… Am I a bitch for this?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years and I’m dead serious when I say that literally every single day out of those 5 years, it’s either “my back hurts” “my head hurts” “my stomach hurts” “I don’t feel good”. For probably the first year or two, I did anything I could think of to try to help him any time he mentioned things like that. Bought him icy hot, a nice heating and massaging pad, etc. (the pad, he never even used btw 🙄) But after a while, it just became such a common thing that I kind of stopped taking it so serious I guess? ESPECIALLY because he doesn’t make any effort to do anything about it. His family has told him, I told him, my family has told him, and he still does nothing, saying “oh I don’t know my primary care so I can’t do anything”. He stuck with that for years. And I know a lot of people say things like “people with chronic pain often get dismissed” but I really don’t think it’s the case with him. He comes up with a bunch of excuses, for example “well I wanna make sure you’re okay” and that’s sweet but I’m sure you can still find the time in 5 years to also make an appointment. Or “the number for my insurance is worn out so I don’t know who to call” but you can google that. He also hasn’t been to a doctor in 7 years. Last month he also got the name of his primary care, STILL did nothing.

Anyways, where I’m going with this is that he still isn’t doing anything about it but then still also complains. Every day. And it’s starting to effect our relationship. He claims he’s in so much pain that sex is hard for him, we barely even have sex anymore because he says it’s too painful, he’s honestly been a dick more times than not lately and he claims it’s because he hurts. But he still chooses to do absolutely NOTHINGG. And expects me to coddle and go out of my way to comfort him all the time.

I don’t want to be mean or dismiss his feelings or the pain he is in. But we’re only 24 and it’s been 5 years of this. It’s hard to coddle him and listen to constant moaning about it. If he at least was making effort, I wouldn’t be annoyed bc at least he’d be trying.