How special is the 'first time?'

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Hi gorgeous girls. Soooo, I have an opportunity to go get some right but the guy is not about feelings, emotions and a relationship. I highkey don't mind because I'm not after a relationship currently but I'm low-key disappointed because uhm, he looks at me and he thinks "I want you in bed" BUT "I don't want to lay on your chest while I tell you about how my co-worker pissed me off today." Oh BTW it is my first time so it's kind of a big deal, or it's supposed to be I don't know, I don't really think I care now. So, any advice from the big girls?💋

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I kinda think you should walk away from this situation. This guy sounds like a bit of a dickhead, and I think you’re going to wind up feeling hurt in the end.

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I don’t recommend losing your v card to someone who will do the deed with you, then get dressed and leave. Share that moment with someone who also wants to share that lovely moment with you, and after. 
I think that even if we don’t make a big deal of the first time, we tend to always remember it. So make that memory a happy one, if that makes sense!

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I personally don't believe in this whole social construct of virginity and all of that. I do believe though that you should make sure firstly that you really want it, secondly that you want to share that much intimacy with this particular guy, then make sure you use protection, do not rely on the guy to have condoms make sure you have your own. And you are allowed to stop it at anytime.

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I regretted my first time and I waited a long time. Most ppl remember their first time forever so there's that.

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really it depends on you.
if you want your first time to be special, then it is. if you don’t care, then it’s not. keep in mind tho, from what you shared, the guy seems to be interested in a fwb type of dynamic, so if you catch feelings you might be screwed.

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Honestly, you will always remember your first time. It’s not gonna be like a fairytale or anything you see in a movie, it’s probably not gonna last long, you probably won’t climax, it may be sweaty and awkward and might be painful, might be sore, you might bleed, you may not bleed. My first time was in the backseat of my car with my partner at the time, it was awkward and sweaty he was drenched in sweat and it was dripping all over me, he only cared about his own climax, it wasn’t remotely pleasure full, my current partner now is the only partner who’s ever been worth it, and I had to wait 43 years for him, all my previous partners could not have cared less about my climax, or me in reality they just used me, or abused me, he is the only partner who’s ever been worth it. And I crave sex with him, because feelings are involved, we have the most intense, passionate, relationship, the minute he walks through the door, I am pressed up against the wall and we are all over each other, he’s my best friend, we have the same sense of humor, we’ve known each other over 20 years, he has his life together, he’s a lawyer, we are each other’s fantasy, he’s a powerful man with a powerful job, who wears a suit every day, he’s an older gentleman, he’s 59, I’m 43, we have that whole power dynamic daddy daughter thing going on, and it is amazing, I have him still on this pedestal of amazement, and it’s been a year and eight months, it is the most intense passionate, amazing relationship I’ve ever been in because we both have feelings, it’s not one-sided, it’s not just hooking up, I did the whole casual thing when I was younger, it wasn’t worth it, pump and dump and roll over or leave, wasn’t worth it, wait till you have that connection with somebody, somebody who is your sexual match, who can keep up with you, who cares about your climax, who aims to please every single time, who he’s attention and notices everything, who cares about you so intensely that he wants to know about your day, he wants to know and share your life, don’t settle for less. Trust me if I could do life all over again, I would’ve waited for him and skipped out on all the bullshit that I went through years and years of crap. One worse than the next. If I could do life all over again, trust me I would stay single until my 40s none of them were worth it. My partner is the only man who’s ever been worth it. He knows me even my breathing. He knows the minute I get wet for my breathing, when I am turned on, he can tell my mood, even from a text message if something is off he notices, he is the most perceptive man I have ever met, previous partners I could’ve been missing a leg and they wouldn’t have noticed or cared. Trust me wait for that emotional connection with someone, wait for the person who makes the effort, and is consistent, who goes above and beyond, he can finish my sentence says he knows me so well, that man can literally read my mind. Wait for that. Don’t settle for less because you wanna get rid of your V card, or get it over with, or because you’re lonely or desperate, or whatever else, trust me it will be so much more worth it when he is actually worth it.￼￼￼￼￼

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Honestly my first time was not special at all, i was 15 hooking up with my brothers friend who was 18 🙄
Got knocked up and miscarried a few months later. so what ever you do, just be smart and safe. 
If you’re young make sure you’re educated on not just your body but the males as well and always always always wear protection
Just remember there’s always a chance of getting pregnant, even if your protected, and if he’s not the type to settle down, i’d be careful bc shit happens 
If you’re feel ready go for it, but sex is a special thing for some people and will cause feelings that you didn’t think you’d get, so just remember he’s not wanting to settle down so if feelings grow there’s a chance of heart break

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I would not recommend it. Even if it wasn’t your first time he sounds like a disrespectful boy that’ll make you feel like crap. Sex is special and it should be with someone you truly care about and cares about you. Trust me, It makes a big difference

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My first time was very unspecial and I regretted it. It was an over and done with thing, meant nothing. I wished that it was with someone that actually cared about me. But thats just me. Also hvn sex wont usually be the best until you hv done it a few times and got the hang of it and hv more confidence in yourself. Depends if you want a nothing experience. I think you deserve a better memory.

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Sounds like a horrible situation to me with a guy who doesn’t respect you or see you as anything worth loving or even caring about . Some people can have casual sex like that and that’s great- I could never and would never

How special is the 'first time?'

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