Would I be wrong to not have my son’s first birthday party at his grandma’s because of this?

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My son’s great grandmother wants to host his first birthday party at her house next month. I asked her if she’d be okay with me inviting my siblings and my mom (I have 4 siblings) but she told me “because of covid” that I could only invite two of my siblings. But I don’t really feel right doing that to them because I know the other two would feel really left out. And not only that, but I feel like the “covid” excuse is BS because all 6 of them are vaccinated (great grandmother, my mom and all siblings), my siblings all live together and don’t go anywhere, she plans on inviting their whole side of the family, and they go out in public all the time without masks. Which doesn’t sound like things someone who’s super concerned about covid would be doing.
But, obviously, it is her house so I don’t get a say so (and don’t expect to). Because of this, I want to do something that is outside of her house instead so that I can invite whoever and not need her approval. Would it be wrong to switch?

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Nope, tell her that either all of your family is welcome or you’ll have it elsewhere.

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You can have your own child’s birthday party wherever you want to. Simple as that.
I don’t blame her for being weary of covid still, vaccinated or not. I’m fully vaccinated, so is my husband, but we’re still overly cautious because we have a small baby who cannot be vaccinated yet. He was born 4 weeks early due to covid-induced preterm labor. So her reasoning is not “BS” just because she’s vaccinated. It’s reasonable to not want to get sick.

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I’d move it! And I understand where you’re coming from if she’s inviting the whole side of her family why can’t you invite your 4 siblings?!

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Have a party with her at her house, then an official party where you want it. As much as it’s your family- ITS YOUR BABY. Some people try to guilt others because they are related but if she truly truly cared she would respect your choice. So you can say “I want to invite _____ but I understand you don’t feel comfortable. So no worries, we can have a party here, then I’ll be doing a bigger party for them at my house. You are still welcome if you change your mind” can she truly say “no you cannot do it”. And say you respect her choice about Covid but that’s her choice. You are making the choice for you.

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Does she know that they're all vaccinated?
I would definitely have it somewhere else if she's that worried about it. She's I'm guessing old and maybe compromised so I can understand her fears about getting sick. Yea I'd just say thanks but no thanks and do what you want wherever you want

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You can move it and do what you wish but just know lots of people means extra cost. Was she offering up her home or paying for it because there is a difference and it's her home she gets a say. You also get a say then to move it to another location pay for it and invite whomever you wish.

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I’d move it.

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She's being selfish and shitty. 
This is your son's first birthday. He deserves to have all his aunties and uncles if they're in his life.

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No it’s your party. Yes it is her house so I understand her. But if you want to invite more people do it at the park or at your home?

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Nope. If she’s inviting the whole family, then there is no reason for a restriction for your family. I would definitely move it because it’s my sons birthday and it’s my decision.

Would I be wrong to not have my son’s first birthday party at his grandma’s because of this?

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