PART 2 “Future MIL crossing boundaries?”

So more like an update actually lol.

As in my my last post I mention my fiancés mom took money from his account without asking and my fiancé got upset. So the day she took the money out she texted my fiancé “I took $ to lend to your sister I’ll put them back when I get paid” and my fiancé called her immediately upset and told her, why are you taking money out of my account without asking in the first place, he also told her he was furious because he would never help out his sister with money ever or anything she needed (That is a story of its own, which I don’t blame him for not wanting to help her because if my sibling pulled the shit she did I don’t ever think I could forgive them), so my fiancé asked her what did she ask you to borrow money for anyways, and her response was idk she just asked me if I can lend her $.

So yesterday morning his mom sent him back the money and then she texted him “thanks for letting me borrow the $ (that she took without asking to borrow 🤣 ) and sorry”

so my fiancé responded “yeah don’t ever let that happen again”

She responded “okay I wont and sorry again and the day you have kids I’m going to help you too that money was for groceries so your nephews can eat and when you were small your uncles helped me”

And my fiancé which replied in the lines of : “if my nephews ever need something I would be more than happy to help If that was the case I would’ve went and purchased groceries and dropped them off my self but I would never help out my sister with money, and on top of that she (his sister) mentioned to she gets help with food stamps.

His mom replied: no she gets WIC not food stamps

Fiancé replied: no she told me she was getting food stamps almost 2 months ago (which she even mentioned the amount to the both of us)

And then my MIL left him on read lol

It also blows my mind that his mom had to lie just to guilt trip him even after the fact. Which I did let my fiancé know that her behavior is not okay with me and him being my partner it upsets me that his mother wants to be that way towards him, his mother and me have had an issue in the past when I was about 17 years old she was making comments to my fiancé; which he let me know about how he shouldn’t be “spoiling me and spending all his money on me because I’ll get used to it and then I won’t want to work” (which I have been working since I was 16 years old, up until the pandemic I was layed off for a while, I’m 25 now and I have a decent job, I have been saving since I started working, and since me and my fiancé got together in high school I would pay for our dates sometimes and still to the date I still pay sometimes, he buys me gifts, I buy him gifts) which when that happened I did not hesitate to address that face to face, and she hasn’t really messed with me or made comments up until I wasn’t working during covid and my fiancé had started a really good job, and one day she was being nosy and looked at his pay stub (again without permission) and all of a sudden she needed money for this bill and that one. & shortly after we got engaged she never congratulated us and she made a comment to my fiancé about me not working in which my fiancé replied “it’s okay if she’s not working she has me to take care of her” 🤣🤣 and his mom stayed quiet and then she replies “well it must be nice to have someone who can take care of you” and my fiancé replied “yeah i think so too to bad all the men you would get with you had to take care of them” and then she just stayed quiet lol

Some of your responses encouraged me to bring up the topic again of my expectations after we get married and I addressed I was upset about the whole situation of his mom taking money from him that doesn’t belong to her to lend to someone else, and he agreed that was the last straw and transferred the money into his other account and closed the one she had access too lol.