Husband says he has low libido but then I catch him jerking off all the time… what could it be??

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Husband says he has low libido and no sex drive… so we don’t have sex although I’m the one that wants it. He’s not even old, I’m 7 years younger. Yet I’ve caught him masterbating in the shower several times.. he says it’s not me.. (I’m 5.5 at 130 lbs and just had a baby) I feel like it’s me.. what can I do about this?

A little about us, we met 2 years ago, married 1 year ago, had our little baby 7 months ago.. and it seems like we’re already in the no sex stage.. what can I do to make things right?

Ps I told him are we going to have sex at all, he shrugged and said sure, and I asked for peace of mind would you rather cut off sex completely or have sex? He said I rather not.

Thanks everyone!!

UPDATE:

we spoke more on the subject last night. Again, I didn’t make it seem like he’s doing anything wrong because I didn’t want to stress him out. He still opted for no sex. I sweetly told him ok and I won’t press him on the subject anymore, but he can’t all of a sudden try to have sex with me because it’s an auto no. I explained that my love for him isn’t because of sex it’s his mind (true) that I fell in love with. I explained I always will think hes handsome and It will suck not having sex but if that’s his wish and he’s happier without sex than I’m on board. He explained that I mustn’t touch myself, I said ok. And I said your body is your body if you’re going to jerk it off he can, but I explained try to do it when I don’t know about it because it hurts to know he rather not touch me. He said ok I’ll do that.

Update: he is not gay! He had a huge Boner the day he met me just by looking at me. When I got pregnant he gained more weight than I did, he used to workout a lot and at that time we used to have sex a lot, with the decline in workouts and incline in weight I’m thinking he’s uncomfortable with his image (low self esteem). All by himself he has booked a doctors appointment to seek help, I didn’t push him or even give the idea to do it. He also has stopped jerking off.

I DID NOT MARRY HIM for sex and will not divorce him for the lack of sex. I married for richer or poorer in sickness and in health, does no one have these values anymore?

What if the poor guy has thyroid cancer (thyroid regulates hormones) and I divorce him for lack of sex? Kind of effed up