Pregnant six times possible trigger warning

Hello all, my husband and I are expecting another baby. We have four together. our two youngest boys are one and two. And then we have two girls eight and six. This pregnancy wasn't a surprise to us it was kind of if it happens it happens type of thing. In September 2021 I was pregnant and lost the baby due to ectopic pregnancy. My husband and I were devastated I went through a bad depression for 3 months and started having therapy sessions with the counselor to really get me through the loss of our baby. I didn't really have a lot of support with my outside family when I told them I had an emergency tubal removal surgery because of a topic pregnancy they were like "wow you were about to have a fifth kid what were you going to do" I did not get a response of "sorry for your loss or "are you okay" keep in mind my husband and I own a five bedroom house,we have 2 cars and a 7 seater SUV, we have great income jobs with great benefits, and we don't ask anyone for anything. We take great care of our kids But what I don't understand how husband and wife can have so much backlash for having more than two kids together? I've gotten a lot of backlash when I had our 4th baby and that honestly hurt my heart. Although I know he came a little sooner than we had planned but we're happy he's here and we love him💙. My husband and I are so happy and we love our 4 kids. And after losing our fifth by tubal pregnancy, we are especially excited for this pregnancy. Although honestly I'm nervous as I don't know how the come of it will be another tubal pregnancy or not. my first obgyn appointment will be in April I'm so nervous. We have yet to tell her family about my pregnancy again and honestly I don't want to say anything until I start showing which will be months from now. I know our family will have something negative to say if they hear that I am pregnant again and I honestly do not feel like hearing that at this time. My husband and I both agreed that he will get a vasectomy before my due date. We both feel that we are done having children now. My question is when it gets around the time to tell our families we're expecting again how can I respond in a positive way towards them when they're going to have something negative to say towards me? 💔