Is it normal ?? I'm not sure

Hi, I'm 28 years old. I got married 4 months ago. Me n my husband tried to have sex the night we got married-I bled n it was so thick that I thought I got my periods. No pain tho. I felt like I lost energy in my body. After that everytime we tried, we weren't able to. I'm not sure if it's happening since I'm very tight. We use lubricant. May be its me who is not letting go of myself. Any suggestion is welcome. May be I'm scared that it'll hurt me. I need to overcome this fear for my husband. Please help.