Personally if you don't have an emotional connection with the SO then it's just sex. I perfer to have the connection. That in its self is enough to make myself and my partner orgasm/cum depending on other factors as to which one is achived. I never reply found penis size to be all that important. I been with large girls. Thin girls and a few older cougar and each time it hasn't really mattered. The emotional connection is what gets me. I can ejaculate just from sexy talk and teasing ribs around the groin. I'm no monster by all means. I'm only 7.8in long by 6.3 round. And I seem to do fine. But there has even been days where my w0 years in the bedroom have not reached several girls to climax. My advice is focus on the emotional connection and your penis size wong matter.