Pap Smear frequency and pain

I had my yearly obgyn visit today. I was told last year that I would get a pap this year. I have had a 'bad ' pap in the past so I like to make sure I always get one when they tell me I'm due. Today my Dr told me I won't be getting one, so I told her that last year she told me I would be due this year. She told me she only does then ever 5 years now but previously I was getting them every 2. I have some family history that concerns me as well as my past bad pap. I asked her to do one anyway to ease my mind. She gave me an attitude and was rude and kept fighting me on it , she was examining me anyway so I asked nicely if she would just please so it and she finally said yes.

I've been getting paps done since I was 18 and I have never had one hurt in my life. I have never spotted from one before. When she did it it HURT not just uncomfortable but pain and she said sorry they are not supposed to feel good and then said I would spot from it and when I wipes I immediately had spotting.

She had an attitude the entire appointment and then I feel was absolutely aggressive with the test in purpose because she was annoyed that I wanted it done. I have cramps and pain when I walk now.

Has anyone had a similar experience ? How often do you get a pap and is it painful for you ?