If your spouse puts zero effort into be affectionate, romantic, loving, physical, thoughtful, plan a date night once in a blue moon etc and you guys have had SEVERALLL talks about this issue...to the point you are over it, no longer sexually/ romantic attracted to your spouse....what would you do?

I know alot of people will say marriage counseling but what's that's gonna fix? We discuss and communicate this...there's just no effort put into it so an outsider telling us the same thing is...useless.

And why he puts zero effort? IDK..he says he will but never does. He works alot but with our new schedules we have a few hours of alone time while all the kids are at school that we can take advantage of (kids were an excuse) and literally nothing. He'd rather sleep or leave to do his sport thing, whenever he has some time he'll choose that, always