Struggling with depression and husband who doesn’t get it

This is more of a rant than anything else- I am 5 week post delivery and for the most part, things have been going great emotionally. I’m loving spending time with my baby girl and my husband has been excellent with her. The issues come up with that my husband hates my parents- while I am biased, my parents have been nothing but supportive and have fully respected his boundaries. My husband hasn’t even talked to my parents in two years, and will not give them a chance. They live 10 min away (and my sister lives in our neighborhood), but my husband is against our daughter seeing my family. He claims it is because they do not share the same religious beliefs as us (we’re all Christian), so does want their influence on our daughter. My family understands that we will raise our child the way we wish to religiously and not interfere in any manner…. But my husband will not even speak to them. My parents have tried to reach out repeatedly, and when they do so, he just gets angry at me. It came to a head yesterday when he had told me that “we” which I took as my daughter and I could go to my parents, so as I was packing up her diaper bag, he flipped out saying our daughter would never be around my parents.

On top of that- I’m trying to increase my milk supply so am pumping as much as possible which is taking a lot on me mentally. He tells me I need to toughen up and that it’s not that hard to raise the baby. I’m really struggling emotionally and have a history of self harm (cutting), and those thoughts are creeping back because I don’t feel like I’m a good enough mother or wife to make my husband happy.

Thank you for reading my rant!