He mistreats my kids

I recently moved to my mom house.

I have 3 kids and my oldest is clearly the favorite. Everyone can see that but people act blind to it.

My 1 year old keeps getting into stuff like any 1 year old does and he was digging in the trash for like the 100th time. I told him to stop and was finna get up and go get him but then My mom boyfriend snatched him and popped him hard and i told him next time to don’t hit my child that hard, never said don’t hit him.. i said don’t be snatching him up and hitting him like that he says I’ll hit you too.. i told him it’ll be the last time he hit me.

He started going off getting defensive and i did to.

I told him he treats my oldest ( 4 year old) like he’s Perfect.

I told him my oldest can scream in his ear all day and run all day, he even jumps up and down so hard that it sounds like he’s gonna fall through the floor but as soon as my other 2 kids do ANYTHING he constantly yells shut up or pop them for no reason.

Then he talking about he see why people lock kids in closets all because my 1 year old makes baby noises..

He makes a humming noise sometimes when he wants something or if he’s tired like any kid does.

I told him when i move out which is soon my oldest is coming with me and i don’t care if he leaves.

Before i came back to my mom i was going to move to Georgia i had a job already, place and of course all my family and my mom boyfriend threw a tantrum saying if my oldest go anywhere then he’s out of here….

So i decided to stay and live here until i can figure everything out.

I broke the lease to my apartment and moved in with my mom.

But now idc i told him a person who is not my family can’t touch my kids.. and a person who never had kids definitely can’t tell me about kids.

I’ll listen to a person who has kids before i listen to him.

He then says stop having kids by men who don’t do anything i told him stop talking about your family and this my life and the last time i checked i never asked him for anything.

I have 2 baby fathers and I’m with my 2nd one and they offer to give me money and they offer to get the kids so to stop speaking on stuff he doesn’t know..

my oldest father is constantly asking about him or when he can see him and i tell him idk because they tell me i can’t make my oldest see his father and my grandma told me these are my kids and to stop listening to what other people say about my kids so if i want him to see his father then take him don’t keep pushing it off because of what my mom boyfriend says when he has no relationship to us.

My Oldest likes his dad he only says no to going to see him because my mom boyfriend be telling him what to say and i just told his father everything and he was like he kind of knew and never blamed me or my mom but he’s happy to see him or get him anytime.

I told my my mom boyfriend from now on if he can’t treat my kids the same then don’t say anything to them and my oldest included..

my oldest goes to his hometown with him which is a hour away but now don’t take my him anywhere because I’m his parent and that’s when he got even more angry my mom was like that’s her child so don’t take him anywhere..

He only got offensive when i brought up my oldest and that told me a lot he thinks that’s his child but it’s not.. you’re almost 50 with no kids and you’re with someone who doesn’t want anymore kids and that’s not my fault.

My mom then says he pays bills here so he has a say so.. i told her she’s making no sense what does paying bills have anything to do with mistreating kids.. she then brought up her helping me as if she didn’t live with grandma til she was 32 and my grandma was the one who helped her with everything from paying half of daycare or anything.. my grandma took care of me to a point people thought i was her daughter.. so once again she’s making no sense.

my mom started bringing up a lot of stuff that she can’t talk about either and that showed me a lot.. i told her i wasn’t talking to her because she treats them equally and does what a grandma should do but he talks to them any kind of way and treats them any kind of way and she says well he lives here so until i get out don’t say anything just ignore it..

I stopped talking.. my boyfriend said i can come live with him but i told him his city doesn’t have good job opportunities but if i don’t find something in 2 weeks I’ll have no choice because I’m not gonna stay here no longer..

Apparently if a person pay bills somewhere they can mistreat kids..