Husband taking a pay cut?

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With inflation, the price of everything rising, would it be stupid of me to encourage my husband to take a paycut? 
Some backround-  my husband has a director position at a fairly large company.  He obviously does mostly manager work, which is really not what he enjoys doing. 
He found a job doing more engineering/architectural work which is what he went to school for and prefers-  basically the same line of work he did before he was promoted.  The problem is, he would be taking a pretty big paycut
I have been encouraging him to take the job.  He is on the fence and has to make a decision quickly.  He has been so unhappy since becoming a director, and it’s sad to see.  He is also working insane amounts, 7 am until 9 pm on a good day, if there’s an incident at work, he’ll be in his office until 1 am:  he is also working weekends too.  His company has international offices, so the office in the UK or Australia will sometimes call him in the middle of the night, and he has to log into work.  
I was talking to my MIL about it, bc my husband told her.  She told me it’s stupid of me to tell him to take a pay cut when we have two young kids, and the cost of living is going up.  
I think he is doing well, even taking the paycut he’s still making very good money.  
What do you guys think? I know the decision is up to my husband, but I have been really telling him to take the new job. It would make him so much happier, and the kids would be happier too.  
Plus for my own selfish reasons-  I would love it if he worked a little less and could help out with the kids more.  I work full time also but with my husbands demanding schedule, all the childcare and house work falls on me.  I would love a little more help with the kids. 
Should I leave it alone, or keep pushing for it? He’s very unhappy right now.

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I’d be like you. Take the job that would make you happy. Money isn’t everything when you hate your job and you barely see your family. If you can make it work financially, it’s worth the cut

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Honestly my husband was in the same situation. Unhappy with his job, wanted to get a job doing what he enjoyed even if it meant taking a pay cut. I encouraged him to do what he felt was right and what would make him happy. We have a baby on the way and he took the new job and couldn’t be happier. He’s enjoying life more and I can tell his mood has improved drastically. I think the best thing for you to do is to encourage him to do what he wants. If he wants to stay at the old job making more money, let him but if he wants to take the pay cut to be happier, he should do that too.

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Quality of life over money every time.

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You shouldn’t be pushing him to do anything. You gave him your opinion, he needs to make his own choice, and knows how you feel.

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If with the pay cut y’all would still do okay I think encouraging him is a great thing life is way to short to be stuck in a job where you’re miserable. Plus he can be home more and spend some quality family time with y’all and he will enjoy the new job and be a lot happier. Whatever is best for your family.

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Mental health is a thousand times more important than money. If it won’t put you guys in the position of not being able to pay your bills I’d be encouraging my husband to quit asap if his dream job was right there for him to take.

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I was in this same position 5 years ago. I took a pay cut of $20k and I’m missing out on my $10-15k annual bonus. I’ll admit, I miss the money;however, I was working from 8am to 10pm on a good day, the day I decided to quit I had just worked 8am-3am and was told I wasn’t doing enough. I had worked from 8am-2am the other 3 days of the week, was pregnant with my twins which was a high risk pregnancy. I’m actually going to become a SAHM for the next few years, while I’m worried about finances I’m just going to have to focus on our budget. Honestly, the best part since leaving that job, is I actually get to spend time at home with my family. I had 2 coworkers there that dedicated their life to the job, 1 would talk about how she didn’t see any of her kids for 5 days at a time and how her SO would cheat on her (he said she was never home) the other gal never had time to date or considered having kids because of her schedule. No one should dedicate that much of their life to a company that isn’t theirs.

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Quality of life and spending time with family is more important than salary at the end of the day. He should take the job that will make him and the whole family healthier. 
(Morbid visual, but food for thought) If he were on his death bed a year from now, I'm certain he would reflect back on his life and wish he had spent more time with family rather than continuing in a job that made him miserable yet yielded more money.

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My husband was injured at work then got fired. Once he was released he found a job with a pay cut doing to same job just lower position which he had worked before. His buddy he worked with quite the day he got fired and got on with this company. He got my man a job and he loves it. The bosses are amazing. He’s been there 2 months and is back to his usual position and has had 2 raises! Ultimately I was for the job cuz his old job was hell. The hours… the bosses…. Other employees… complete hell. This is a 360 and we didn’t stress about money at all. The whole attitude change was amazing in itself. Personally I’d push for what makes him happy and home more. I’d give him my reason (happier, shorter hours meaning more family time etc) and ensure him financially you’d be okay (that is if you will be). I handle the bills at our house so that is exactly what I did. Ultimately it is up to him but hopefully with you expressing yourself and heck even have the kids express themselves (my 8 year old did) he will make what he feels is right.

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I didn’t even read this all, his happiness should always matter more than money! You guys can make it work with less money. If it was me, I would want my husband to be truly happy and I wouldn’t want him working those long hours

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