Multiple FTM questions! 2 month old

My baby girl is 2 months now and we are still figuring things out….

Does anyone know how to help with a bad gag reflex? (No tongue or lip ties- a nurse checked during a breastfeeding consult and noticed her super sensitive gag reflex then too)

She’s eating fine but we have to do bottle and breast because sometimes my flow is too much for her (it’s only triggered by her latching and I don’t have any leakage so I don’t have a way of slowing it down)…Does anyone have tips on how to slow flow down? Lying on my back doesn’t seem to work and she seems to throw a fit.

She also seems to want to suck on something to soothe her but seems to struggle with what to do or keeping it in her mouth. She will just push it around with her tongue but it does help stop her crying for a short while. Tonight we were playing with one and apparently I kept it in too long because it made her gag and spit up a ton. It’s like she forgets how to suck. I’ve tried all different kinds of pacifiers but everything makes her gag. (Yes I also know that it’s possible that she’ll never take one but it just seems like she might want something)

At 2 months should they be holding their heads up quite a bit during tummy time?

Does anyone have any soothing tips for a colic?

Any tips on how to get baby to sleep at night? Once I can get her to sleep for the first time she does pretty good but it’s that initial lay down that’s hard with her being in a super light sleep and waking constantly. Haha it’s been a rough 8 weeks!

Wow…sorry I have so many questions I still feel like I’m clueless and can’t figure out how to help my baby 😭