Voice raising.

Yelling

Sarcasm

Annoyed and defensive facial expression

Husband’s anger has snowballed again because of me expressing my feelings about him lying on/ in appropriate joking about me forcing him to teach. I don’t care about that. I care that he is spreading misinformation and defamation of character in an arena in which I cannot defend myself. And even if I could it’s just not ok. His initial reaction was defensive but he did apologize and I forgave him and even paraphrased his apology to he sure I heard it right. However I needed to express the principle of what happened and principles of marriage and teamwork. By doing so, he escalated. Explaining that if he didn’t want todo teamwork he would have quit his job tomoyjust to show me idk teach me a lesson. He does that. I point out that this language isn’t edifying and he should give it to God. But he keeps going and then raises his voice. I, sticking to my boundaries verbalized that I don’t speak to him when he’s raising his voice at me (I’m laying in bed btw and he staring up). He keeps going and I point to the door and say “you can get out of the bedroom. I’m done with his convo” then he starts yelling and honestly idk about what because I tunes him out. I turned up the tv and blocked him out. All I heard was “THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT!” You want me to yell! You don’t accept my apology I said I was sorry! Responding to only what I heard I say, no this is what you want for yourself, I want better. I heard your apology and already accepted it. Again, you can go. I’m done. He stilll continues about how mad I am. I’m not even mad. I tell him I’m not upset, you are yelling and clearly upset. I was simply expressing inappropriate comments or joke about your wife and the principles of marriage. Idk why but that was triggering for him I think. Me expressing myself. He was very defensive in nonverbal behavior from the first sentence I spoke. Even though I told him that is one of the things that makes me feel there isn’t space for me to express myself.