Please....

Teach me how to keep a clean house... I have anxiety, depression and adhd( unmedicated because I can't afford $700 to test but I have 100% of symptoms). I CRAVE a spotless house but I can't do it. My daughter,9, but still not her responsinility* and hubby won't help me either and I feel like I'm losing my mind :( I was never taught how to clean but at about 16-18 I was almost old like but now I'm so overwhelmed. Tell me your secrets. And please don't shame me I shame myself as it is..