How was your family and your partners family when you became a first time mom?

Did you need to ask them a lot of questions, or does the mom instinct come in when you give birth?

I’m afraid people are going to try to parent my child when I’m supposed to be the mom, and that might make me snap. My due date is in 20 days and obviously I’m getting worried. I’m also worried about phone use after the baby is born. Like I’m 32 years old, having my first baby, first grandchild on both sides. My mom has already told me she’s going to be a baby hog. I get she’s excited that’s cool and all but it makes me nervous for my own sanity. There’s just been so much going on with my mom to where she thinks she’s entitled because she’s a grandma. What am I supposed to because she literally thinks she’s going to have my baby more then me…mind you, I’m going to be spending the first few months with him, we ain’t really going to be going anywhere because newborns sleep a lot. I do plan on going to work but it just feels like she is obsessed with my baby. I got some of my mucus plug one day and told her but we all know it isn’t a big deal, so she went around and told almost everyone everything. She doesn’t understand the boundaries I have, she doesn’t respect when I say don’t touch my belly like she told me to be nice lmao all I said is don’t touch me, she said be nice? Then says she’s the grandma. This is my body, this is my baby. She has went overboard and bought so much stuff for my baby, stuff like a crib, changing table, all this stuff that the baby won’t even need. Plus I’ve never even asked her to babysit when I go back to work. At this point I feel she is super obsessed and doesn’t need to watch him. She had her heart set on cutting the umbilical cord, like my son has a father whose very much involved and will be there to cut the cord, like all these things I say no too, she gets her feelings hurt but my entire life she has said “she’s the mom” well it’s my turn to be the mom, I’ve been carrying this child, I will be birthing my baby, and I will take care of him. It hurts me to hurt her feelings but at the same time, she needs boundaries to be set into place because this is not her baby, it’s mine.