Sharing discipline…

My husband is a lot more short tempered than I am and sometimes he needs help when dealing with our kids’ tantrums. Whenever we have to deal with our kids, after a point, he’ll look at me and I know it’s my cue to take over before he loses it. However, when it’s reversed, things are a little different… For example, this morning, our 6 year old was screaming and crying to the point of throwing up because I wouldn’t take her to work with me. (I work in a dance studio and I sometimes take her with me when I teach classes her age) For the summer, it’s competition season so a lot more rehearsals and a lot more work, so I told her no, and explained why as well. She was having none of it. Throwing stuff, screaming, crying, hitting things… I tried my best, I really did but she was unconsolable. I seek my husband for help like we usually do, but he just stares at me and shrugs, says he needs to get to work (it was around 8, he leaves at 8:25) so I ended up having to take care of her and our two youngest alone while he left early for work.

Later that afternoon we met up for lunch and I asked him why he left me to deal with all three kids and again he shrugs, says he didn’t know what to do. Well fuck me neither but I just needed support??? How could we work things out so whenever something like that happens again we can handle it together?