LOSING MY VIRGINITY PAINFUL

I’m a 19F that recently lost my virginity to a guy. I gave him oral and then he put on a condom. It was difficult getting his dick inside me in cowgirl position. He tried but it was difficult because I was very tight. Eventually, he was able to penetrate me but it hurt so bad and his dick kept slipping. He suggested to remove the condom because it’d be easier which I agreed to. The penetration eventually became easier but it still hurt extremely bad. It reminded me of my first pelvic exam when my doctor shoved a speculum up my vagina. I kept telling him to slow down but kept going faster. We switched to doggy style and he went so fast it felt like pins & needles in my vagina. I told him to slow down because it hurt but he kept going and said “take it.” It was like he was enjoying me being in pain. It must’ve been a ego thing because he smiled when I told him I was sore. Is losing your virginity supposed to be this painful?