How do you decide to have another child.

We have 2 children already, aged 3 and 4. They are at perfect age now and we are getting our free time and back and out of nappies, bottles, dummy’s, pushchairs etc, all the ‘baby’ things. We have both always wanted 3 children but we love how easy our life is getting now compared to when we had 2 under 2 and the chaos and structure we lived our life by. I know if a 3rd child came along we would never regret it and it would slot in and everything would be ok but when we’ve been actively avoiding pregnancy for 3 years now when our other 2 where random and no prevented. We avoided another pregnancy which would result in another close age gap (our 2 are 18 months apart). And now to stop being so careful seems scary and risky. I don’t know if I feel ‘done’ yet. I love pregnancy and labour I had a great experience both times. Would we regret not having a 3rd and always thinking what if? I don’t want a huge age gap either so we have said if we haven’t decided to have another by time our youngest is 5 then we won’t. Our 2 are so happy and are the best of friends. I just wouldn’t want to feel like a 3rd would be the odd one out in some ways. 2 children make sense for a lot of ‘life things’ like house size, car size, holidays, money in general.

I am ever so grateful that I have my 2 precious children and who to say I will even be lucky enough to have a 3rd but right now it’s making the choice to go for it that is tricky. I just feel guilty as this change would uproot our childrens lives for a while.

I’m basically just thinking out loud. One day we are all for it then others days we are not too sure again.

Do any of you have any advice or experience of having 3 children and if it was harder to go from 1-2 or 2-3?