Kids or no kids??

idk if it’s normal but i’ve never had the desire to have kids. what it would put my body through, and dealing w infants and then toddlers sounds like so much work. I also have bpd and I don’t want to risk passing that down. it’s so annoying when people tell me i’ll regret not having them because I genuinely don’t see a benefit in having them. I want a successful career and to travel and ik having kids will effect that. my boyfriend has made it clear he wants to be a father tho. I love him but I don’t know if we should stay together if we have different goals. have you guys felt the same way and then later decided to have kids? maybe I would want to adopt because I know there’s so many children who need homes. should I talk with my boyfriend about it and break up if what we want is so different? it seems like a really big decision to make that I wanna just avoid bc i’m so unsure about it, but I know I need to actually think this over…