I have a four year old that my husband adopted when she was two. She’s my world. She calls him daddy and that’s all she’s known as daddy. We also have a 1 year old and 1 month old.

He has a temper and we’ve been having a lot of issues. Since the baby has been born our four year old has not been wanting to be away from me at all.

He was going to take them on a hike while I got some work/rest with the newborn at home.

Well my daughter started crying that she wanted to stay with me. I tried being silly with her and get her excited. As time got closer she got more upset about going. Husband was calling her a baby and just making unnecessary comments. So I talked with him privately and said I don’t blame her I wouldn’t want to go with him either and that he needs to be patient and loving.

As we were walking to the vehicle she started screaming crying and he started making those comments again. I was holding our newborn. He snatched her up and sat her in the booster seat and was trying to buckle her in while she is having a full blown panic attack and I saw fear in her eyes. The seat belt looked like it was choking her so I yelled and he unbuckled it. I got my kids out of the vehicle and told him to leave.

He left but I know he will come back. I do not want him back here. This isn’t the first time he’s been like this but one of the worst.

If I try to get a restraining order against him how long does it take and will they allow it? I don’t have evidence of his violent episodes..

I also hate to put my kids through this but I want him out! I don’t feel safe around him.

UPDATE:

This situation was like the last straw type of situation for me because he has been physically and verbally abusive towards me. That’s the part I didn’t add. So, when I see that look in his eye that he gives me before he slaps me across the face, but towards my daughter, is not okay with me.

I love him with me entire heart. He’s changed. He also lies to me and does things behind my back. He’s barley ever home. Even typing this is the first time I’ve gotten it out of me. Im heartbroken.

Im 6 weeks postpartum and he has been jumping down my throat because I need to start exercising again. I’m very fit and I will get back to it but geez. I don’t feel loved. I don’t even feel safe.

He hasn’t put his hands on me in about 3 months, but I was pregnant the last time he did. He claims since he pulled my hair he didn’t harm our baby.

So now you can maybe understand a bit of why I want to get out of this situation.

It’s sad to see how hateful a lot of you are.

Also, I have definitely forced my kids in their car seats a handful of times, and so has he. But the way he did it was extremely to forceful. Like he was trying to hurt her.

I’m my post when I said “this isn’t the first time he’s been like this but one of the worst” that was a typo I meant “or one the worst”

Update #2:

Some of you are wondering why I’ve stayed with him. Here’s why: it was so wonderful in the beginning. I saw red flags, but I avoided them. I actually found out I was pregnant the same week I saw his “true colors”. He always promises he won’t ever do it again, whether it be him cussing me out or a slap here & there. I always believe him.

I stayed for our kids. Then, I got pregnant again while on birth control. I was so devastated because I still wanted to get out of this situation even then.

When things are going good they are great, but they always come crashing down.

I guess I didn’t include all of this information in the first post for one I’m exhausted and I’ve never shared this with anyone. It’s like I’m embarrassed like it’s my deepest darkest secret because I never in a million years imagine my relationship to turn out like this. I so badly want a happy family and I’m so depressed that it’s not.