What’s normal?

In the past my toxic ex’s always wanted to see me. I know it’s not healthy to constantly want to see each other. I’m now in a healthy relationship but I feel like I’m the one making the effort always to see each other. He’s fine in person and says he loves me but the other day he took a nap instead of seeing me when trying to make plans so therefore we only saw each other once that week. We only see each other on the weekends now and it’s mostly plans with his friends. No alone time. We don’t talk as much in the phone either. He’s very distracted, with work which is fine but he mostly stays up till 3am playing video games with his friends. He’s so good to me and when he looks at me I think it’s genuine but sometimes I feel like he’s not head over heels but because of my past I’m having a hard time judging.