okay to preface this i am 21 and i have only been in one relationship before from 16-19 and that was an abusive situation. so i have a little trouble seeing the warning signs but i think i should trust my instinct here..

i started “talking” i guess to my coworker he is really nice and he’s polite and funny like he seems like a good person. and i’ve been spending every night at his house, he gets off of work at 11pm and he will usually come and get me straight away without me asking. and he’s never expected anything sexual? like i’ll be the one to initiate anything usually.

last night was no different but after i fell asleep in his bed i woke up around 5am and saw he was asleep next to me and his phone was unlocked on his chest.

i know i shouldn’t have but i picked it up and what i saw kinda made me change the way i view him. it was opened to an instagram page that he had to have created because he was logged into it. and the username had the word “perv” in it and he only followed instagram models.. hundreds and had interacted on it as recent as when i had seen it. i tried to include a photo of the likes but i don’t think it’s letting me because of nudity. idk.

and so i swiped up and i also saw he had the notes app open. the note :

he also had been texting provocatively with one of his cousins

her “we’re just cousins right”

him “no there’s things i want to do to you i can’t do to a cousin”

her: “like what”

him: “i’ll teach you”

(it was in spanish, i’m translating)

i didn’t really look any further or read more because i felt kind of sick. i left his house shortly after that and didn’t say anything about it to him.

this is definitely not okay right? also he is 25 years old. he seemed so nice i never would have thought this. like actually…

also he’s my coworker and we work similar hours so it would be so strange.