Toxic future mother in law

I don’t even know where to begin! 🤦🏼‍♀️

I guess I’ll start with the worst comment she has made… so I was engaged for over a year with this guy. He started pushing getting married but I didn’t want to get married yet because I wanted to finish school and save more money. He eventually convinced me after asking me over And over for about 5 months. I started planning immediately because we wanted it by the end of the year. I was so excited and literally had EVERYTHING planned. One day at work I get a text from him saying he wants to call off the wedding because he doesn’t think we could do the whole marriage thing now🥺 my heart was broken I decided to give my ring back and told him I don’t want it back till he grows up and decided to be a man. So fast forward to the end of the year… I went with his mom to an event and told her how I felt about what happened. In return I get told “anyone would be grateful for my son and you need to get over yourself”.

Next big comment. We were attending a wedding and his cousin was introducing us to his girlfriend. The girlfriend looked at me and asked my name and my man’s mom butted in and pronounced my name totally wrong in front of not just this girl but the whole family. It honestly hurt my feelings and embarrassed me because I’ve been with her son for 5 years. I really believe it wasn’t by accident.

To some, these things are not a big deal but to me it hurts. I am very good to her son and I’m respectful to her. There’s no reason for her to treat me like this.

She has made MANY other comments but these stick out the most. It’s like she’s very controlling over her son and I’ll NEVER be good enough. I am not the only one that gets to hear the lovely negative comments. If you come in contact to her more than likely she’s going to say something negative.

I just need some advice on how to be the better person and not let his mom ruin our relationship.