Hello,

My 20 month olds sleep is horrendous and I need some advice on ways to help her fall asleep by herself.

She’s still rocked to sleep, I know that’s bad but I’m a full time mum and work 2 jobs at unsociable hours so it’s been easier to do what I know works but now I just can’t do it anymore. I’m getting 3 hours of sleep a night because she wakes up and is up for anywhere from 30 mins - 5 hours during the night.

I’m also hesitant sleep training because we have tried it before. We have tried the Ferber method but my daughter is a screamer and after leaving her the second interval, after literally 1 minute she had got herself so worked up she puked and then choked on her own sick. She literally couldn’t breath for 40 seconds - a minute and it was so scary which is why I’m also hesitant to sleep train. She can get worked up so quick and once she’s in a state, it’s incredibly hard to calm her down. Which is why cry it out or any method that will make her cry will simply not work and I’m not comfortable with letting her cry anyway.

So if anyone has any experience or has gone through this and found something gentle that works, please let me know. I’m starting to really suffer mentally and physically with this lack of sleep and pure frustration.

Thankyou!