Has counseling ever made your marriage WORSE???

My husband had an inappropriate relationship with a coworker over text, which prompted us to start marriage counseling about a year ago. He knew he made a mistake and was willing to do anything to fix it. So it’s not like we started on the brink of divorce. Since then he has done everything to show me he wants to earn my trust back and to a certain extent, he has. At this point, about a year later, I feel we are worse off than we started. And this has nothing to do with the “affair”. I have forgiven him for that. It’s basically everything else. Going to counseling has opened some doors that led me down a path of seeing that I’ve basically been a door mat and have a lot of resentment after almost 8 years of being an army wife/law enforcement wife and the primary parent. I’ve only ever been a priority after himself. Has counseling ever made your marriage worse? Neither of us want to actually divorce and we are both very committed, but it has been HARD. Advice???