Today is the day my son became a man

Today was the day my son became a man. Me and my son's father are divorced and have been for years. Our son hasn't turned out exactly how his dad wanted. My son is very sweet. Very loving. He's a lover not a fighter. When I see him, I don't think protector. I think he's a nurturer. He has a very nurturing personality. He loves kids and he used to say he wanted to be a manny(man nanny) wheb he grows up. He also is a little feminine but he has said several times he likes girls and doesn't like guys. He can admire a guy but would never be with one. Me and his dad have fought because he wants a son who is going to be masculine and a protector and provider and make a lot of money and all that stuff. His words is he wants a son who's a man not a sissy. We always fought over this. My son is 17 and is nearing 18. But today is the day he became a man and stood up to his dad. He was supposed to go with his dad today and said he wasn't and I'm gonna paraphrase but he basically said "I am not who you want me to be. I am not a manly man. Or a protector or strong. I am a lover not a fighter. I don't like violence. I am not the type to fight someone. I carry a taser if I have to because I can't fight even if I needed to. I have a feminine side but I do like girls. And I like me. I love me. And sometimes I wonder if you love me". His dad said "I love you but -" my son cut him off and said "Then stop trying to change me". I'm fine with who I am. Who marry will be fine with who I am. If you are not fine with who I am then you don't need to be in my life because I'm not gonna hate myself to make you happy". And he went in the house. And I told my son "You are a man. You have a heart. And you know who you are as a person. You are a man".