Am I to blame ?

Long story short .. I’m a married mum of two (7) and ( 4 months ) …

Me and the hubby got into an argument about him sitting around doing nothing every night and on the weekends. Yes he works 9 to 5 and I do all the cooking , cleaning , washing , kids baths , organising for school and any parties / outings.

My 7 year old is having a bad time in school and this night I was comforting her as she was crying. He called up the stairs and said come and make me a bottle for the baby, I came straight down to make it but on my way said I was dealing with our daughter could you not make it yourself and laughed.

It got completely twisted and that I’m an unsupportive wife and how he asked for support and I basically said no .. even though I came straight to make it. It went back and forth for ages and in the end he ended up shoving me onto to the bed and holding my upper arm whilst shoving his finger in my face.

The next day I was very emotional and quite shaken as this wasn’t his normal behaviour, his parents noticed my low mood and questioned me and I opened up and cried and said I was hurt , sad , shocked and heartbroken that it happened.

Fast forward two weeks - he’s been to his parents without me and got into a fight with his mum about one of his brothers .. his mum has said some things and right at the end said “ at least I don’t hurt my wife.” With this he has kicked me out of our home with the kids and blamed the falling out all on me, even though his dad has called me and said he was in a bad mood and was looking for a fight with someone.

I feel so confused and don’t know what to feel or think.