Am I wrong for feeling upset?
So lately when I’ve been cooking my boyfriend will make comments that haven’t been sitting right honestly. he would say things like “oh the pasta you made was drowning in oil like made me feel like my arteries were clogged” like first of all, I didn’t add oil second I ate it and my mom and sisters ate it and said it was fine and then he said “oh I was just joking so stop” and to top it off when I make pasta he eats like 3 bowls of it so it’s like if it’s that bad why eat it yk ? I brushed it off since he said he was joking . I was making him a lunch (just some tuna nothing crazy) and when I was adding the mayo and he was like “damn that’s a lot of mayo what are you trying to make me fat?” And I was like 🤨 it’s literally a spoon of mayo and when I mixed it in it blended into the tuna and he was like “oh I’m just giving you a hard time, thank you for the food” so again doesn’t sit right and I told him if he doesn’t stop with his snarky “joking” comments that I’m not making him shit anymore and he apologized and said he wouldn’t do that again. Fast forward to right now I was making myself an egg sandwich I use some oil to fry the egg so it doesn’t get stuck to the pan and he was eating hot Cheetos next to me and as I was cooking he looked over and said “that’s a lot of oil, you know that’s not good for you right?” Like this is how I always make egg sandwiches and never once has he complained or said anything but right now he decides to ? I then turned and said “hot Cheetos aren’t good for you either” and he then continued with “might as well drink the oil with how much you put.” So I turned the stove off and left because I’ve already been feeling self conscious about my weight I really don’t find his jokes funny and he knows this. He then tried hugging on me and telling me he was just kidding and to please eat but I told him to please leave me alone and that I needed some space .
So my question is Am I being too sensitive or is he being an asshole ?
Update : so to start this off we had another talk and he apologized and realized he was being an ass due to work related stress and acknowledged that it was wrong. joking or not disrespect is disrespect whether it’s painted as a joke or not and in my opinion jokes shouldn’t be made at the expense of others. We both joke a lot and have a playful relationship but we also both have boundaries to it. That being said, my boyfriend doesn’t and never has had a problem with my weight and thinks I look good, it’s me who isn’t happy with myself so I’ve been working to change that. Also would like to add, my bf likes his tuna with mayo it wasn’t for me but thank you for the new tuna recipe I’ll definitely try that ! And yes I use avocado oil for my cooking when oil is used unless it’s for sweets then I use coconut oil (: thank you ladies for all the different perspectives and the health advice also♥️
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