Unwanted pet.. š help?
Not sure which group to post this in but Iām just asking for advice on what to say pretty much.
So my daughters dad and I kind of started to talk again since weāre not exactly together and hadnāt talked for about 3 months almost. Anyway, I say that because he can be a defensive person about any little thing almost and gets ātriggeredā easily.
About a week ago he shared a pic of a puppy to me saying he wanted to get it for our daughter for her bday. I said itās cute and all but Iām not going to take care of it especially since Iām pregnant and we will be having a newborn/baby in the home soon. Itās just our daughter and i who live alone and he lives with his mom. So I basically said whoās gonna take care of it, your mom? And that had I not been pregnant and wasnāt having a new person coming into our lives I probably wouldāve agreed to it. I had thought he kind of knew where I was coming from and gave up the idea. Over the weekend he tried to insist that the pet was going to just stay at my place, which is a small 2 bedroom apartment, no yard or fenced porch or nothing but I kept saying no.
He basically brought it over last night knowing I had repeatedly said no and initially denied wanting it. The puppy is cute and all which Iām thinking he thought would pursue me into wanting/keeping it. Of course my daughter loves it but I donāt want it here, I have a home to keep up that I had NOT prepared for a puppy let alone is prepared for a baby as well as having to take care of our daughter (6) by myself most of the time. He basically left this responsibility to me and Iām almost sure itāll be the same when the baby comes which sucks because I donāt see him being here or throughout the night to help me take care of the baby let alone this pet.
What can I say to him without him getting triggered easily and āhurtā that I donāt want and didnāt want this pet?? I mean Iām sure ultimately heāll try and say Iām a ***** or mean or something negative just because I donāt want it, but again I NEVER agreed to having it. Help??
UPDATE: so he ended up taking the puppy to his moms, which sadly itās not welcomed there either but he shouldāve definitely thought more smarter and harder about even considering having the puppy. I do feel bad for my daughter as she was obviously excited and happy about it but I also let her know we have to get ready for a baby right now not a puppy. I know sheāll be sad and hurt if he ends up giving it back or away but Iāve always told her when we have a house we can get a puppy. Now was just not a good time. Thanks to everyone for the help and opinions.
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