How do I deal with my MIL?
Need advice....feel like we need to go low contact on this one.
My MIL is an absolute nightmare. I won't go into all the details because there is a lot of history. Let's just say she is selfish, disrespectful and completely incapable of apologizing or admitting responsibility for her actions. She is however wonderful at pointing the blame at others whenever something goes wrong. It's a talent I swear.
My main issue has to do with germs and her lack of understanding how they are transmitted.
We have a 5 month old son who we love dearly. We had her babysit 4 times since he was born in June and each time has been a disaster. We have very few rules but the main ones are wash your hands before you hold him, wash your hands after you inevitably wipe your snotty nose with them and DO NOT KISS THE BABY. and every time we visit her or she invites herself to our house which we are renting from her she has to be reminded of the rules. She will respond with either 'I washed them before I left my house' if she comes to visit us or literally rolls her eyes when my husband tells her to wash them at her apartment. Mind you...she habitually sneezes into her hands, wipes them on her nose instead of using a tissue and doesn't wash them when she leaves the bathroom. I know this because we lived together for 15 years. She is so gross.
Today we went to visit her briefly and during the 1 hour visit she rolled her eyes and snidely said I better wash my hands as soon as I stepped out of the room, then proceeded to kiss our sons face while looking directly into my eyes them blew raspberries on his neck when I asked her to not kiss his face. She said his neck is not his face.
Is this a valid reason to go low contact? We can't do no contact because she doesn't have ANYONE else in her life as she has run off everyone who cares about her. I'm not a monster. Lol. Plus we have to give her rent and bill money every month.
Other line crossing behavior include bringing her friend over after he was born after we told her not to, dropping in with no warning and having the nerve to talk about my mental health AS SOON AS I LEAVE THE ROOM saying that she thinks I have PPD because I am so concerned with germs. She gave us COVID in September.
After we had our spat over kissing today she said 'I can't believe this RSV thing that's going on right now it's so sad'... I was like uhm are you trolling me right now?
Should we cut her off? I have kept my mouth shut out of respect for my husband's relationship and family. Today after I said what I did he said he is proud of me and don't ever apologize for putting our son's health before his moms feelings.
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