Posting anonymously in case anyone involved sees this.

My best is in the army/her husband also is, and several months ago, found out her husband is more into men than women. Using fake names. Her name is Cassie, her husband is Lance and the other guy is Troy.

Cassie has never been one to “hoe around” especially when in a committed relationship, but things are different here.

A few months ago, Cassie decided she didn’t really want to be in her relationship anymore. They were emotionally separated (and physically) for a while since Lance was moved to another state for month’s long work thing. Cassie got really close with someone in her squadron, Troy, and they ended up having sex a few times (she was getting things ready for divorce).

Her husband, Lance, came home from another state, and after a few serious conversations, they decided to work on their marriage. They have sex but not often. They did before he left, and after he got back.

About a month ago, she found out she was pregnant and really feels like it may be the Troy’s baby. She has inconsistent periods, Troy raw-dogged and Lance usually wraps up. 👀

HOWEVER- Troy recently got moved to another base over an hour away, and when she talked to him about how it could be his, he practically ghosted her. This guy is also married but HAPPY in his relationship (obviously not sexually, though.) 🙄

She knows Lance won’t stay with her if it ends up being Troy’s child. But, her husband Lance is well aware she’s pregnant and thinks this baby will improve their marriage/he’s happy to become a father.

Lance doesn’t know that Cassie and Troy hooked up, but that they connected well/were friends.

Despite her telling Lance to not say anything, he told his parents who live on the other side of the USA. They want them to move in so they can help take care of the baby, but they’re staying in their current state.

My friend Cassie has decided to continue her pregnancy, and is scheduled for a sonogram in a few months. From there, she plans to pinpoint the date of conception and make a plan from there.

She doesn’t know what’s going to happen if that baby comes out looking like Troy, but despite it all, understands the consequences of her actions and has been positive about everything. Troy is not part of the picture anymore, unless genetically it’s his.

Her parents aren’t around and she doesn’t have many friends in this state. One of her extended family members has foreseen this happening to her, to the exact month, so she feels she’s destined for motherhood right now.

She has asked me to be by her side through her pregnancy, which I happily will- but long story short:

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Best friend doesn’t know who the father of her child is and I want to know how I can be a better friend/ great support system for her. I’ve asked to give her a baby shower and have offered to be with her for appointments if she likes, just want to know how I can support her best.

I love this lady. She’s crazy in a fun way, she’s strong, and doesn’t take shit from anyone. I admire her but know that even the strongest people have their weak moments and need to somehow show her I will stick around unlike her parents, old friends, etc.