Hi everyone,

There’s a lot of issues I have with my in laws and I have always tried to work with them. I’m going to try to keep this short.

I’ve realized my FIL is a narcissist and my MIL is constantly enabling him. They are not mentally healthy people.

When I was pregnant the first time I ended up having a loss and my MIL kept encouraging me to try again. I didn’t appreciate the pressure from her.

I than was lucky enough to fall pregnant and I had a difficult pregnancy. I was on bed rest the whole time. When my son was born I thought everyone would be happy but that wasn’t the case. My FIL caused A LOT of drama. A LOT. And I was so embarrassed in front of my family. He was refusing to meet his grandson.

A lot of things happened and I ended up with PPD.

Once I realized it I made sure to get help ASAP for my son.

I am doing much better but dealing with my in laws has been very difficult as my FIL & MIL are finding ways to constantly make me feel inadequate. There’s so many ways (including my parenting) but one way is my weight. I gained A LOT of weight and my son is a year old now and I haven’t lost any of it. My MIL has made comments to when I’ve been alone with her— apparently I am “double” from my wedding.

This made me so sad and feel so low. I have always been self conscious about weight even at my lowest so it definitely stung.

Recently, she keeps telling people I have hypothyroidism (no one’s business) and that I am dieting. No one made any comments but she is like trying to explain my weight I guess? Because she’s embarrassed of me???

I feel so awful about myself and I want to cut them out of my life. My husband has asked I don’t cut ties just meet them twice a month (every other week) except on special occasions. Now it’s my SIL’s baby shower and I don’t want to go. I don’t want to spend time with people who are embarrassed of me.

It was so hard for me to maintain my pregnancy. I am so lucky I was able to have my son and I would have sacrificed anything especially after my last pregnancy resulting in a loss. I am embarrassed of my weight but to me it’s worth it.

I’m just venting. I feel sad and angry. I just wish I could cut out my parents in law from my life. I’m tired of being picked apart. My SIL is kind to me and I am happy for her but I just want space from her parents. Am I wrong?

How do I not let what they say bother me? And why does it sting so much?