Hi all,

I have been texting a guy I met off a dating app since early summer time. After giving out my number and he established that he was open to friendship or a relationship and likewise for myself. As we continued to text, he disclosed to me that he was going through a divorce… which has since then been finalized. So, I’m just kind of confused with this bc he calls me his “friend”, but we mainly only text and we talked otp once. The texts are very consistent, but I guess I’m annoyed bc he’s not making an effort to hang out or even ft as a “friend” would, he states it’s bc he himself isn’t “whole” rn and he doesn’t want to rub off his negative emotions on me. We have gotten to know one another via text, but it’s weird bc it’s like, he’s so open, yet closed off to me and at this point I’m getting annoyed bc I feel that I’m just his “texting companion”, like he just wants someone to coddle him until he finds someone else he likes. There is some distance bw us like 2 hrs. Then he once confused me even more bc he texted me stating, “I wish I can find a girl like you to date, someone that’s compassionate, listens, driven, etc”. So I’m not sure if he was implying that he wants to date me or what?

I understand he just went through a divorce and I’m trying to be patient & I even asked him would it be weird for him hanging out with a woman for the first time since his divorce and he said he wasn’t sure.

So In your opinion, what should I do? Should I cut him off? Ask him what he wants? Explain my confusion to him? Just give him some time…I just don’t want to come off as too aggressive… but I also feel like this “friendship” isn’t moving in purpose.