never felt more confused
My boyfriend (27)has officially freaked me (19)out, especially tonight when he has displayed some odd behavior. In tonight’s call he made a huge deal over the fact that I told him I felt calm after he asked me what I was feeling in the exact moment. Never did I think that answer would be such a terrible one. I didn’t think twice or never thought anything bad because that’s normal right? I feel like I’m going absolutely crazy when I speak to him sometimes and I even start questioning myself and sanity. He said that because my tone of voice fluctuated through the calls and that I’m suddenly now very quiet and not saying anything, so now that means when I’m calm he’ll expect me to act the way that I am now. That also means that he now is also going to act the same way so that he avoids feeling confused in the future. I know that’s very confusing but he explained that he tries to understand my actions. Also that since we agreed on better communication that we should tell each other everything so we don’t leave the other one wondering. But after I explained that that’s what he expects from me then he goes on and says “well actually remember I said I don’t expect anything from you anymore, I’m very disappointed in you for not communicating well enough but you are right u do expect you to communicate the way you said you would.” Now I’m doubled confused. So that’s what he wants or not? Then to add onto the weirdness he goes on and on about how much he loves himself and he starts full on cracking up because he’s so amused with himself. Saying that he loves the way he thinks and analyzes everything. He was even analyzing the way I was breathing asking me what noises were coming out of my mouth and why I was breathing a certain way. Currently he’s just “calm”, not saying a word on call and it oddly feels like he’s getting back at me for I don’t know what. But I’m left confused and second guessing my every move, he makes me feel dumb by saying “oh sorry is this confusing for you, can you keep up?” What is he trying to play here?
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