I’m not due until June and my shower will be end of March/beginning of April and I just went to my SILs baby shower a few weeks ago hosted by my MIL(SILs step mom) and it was so bad. When we walked in she goes “why are you here?” I said “because (her husband) told us we could and we’d love to help set up!” And she goes “I don’t want you here nor do I want your help” and at that point I started tearing up and almost turned around and walked out the door but I didn’t. I put a smile on my face walked around the corner to see literally her entire family there yet we weren’t allowed? It hurt my feelings and this isn’t the first time she has hurt my feelings it’s ALWAYS her against me and my FIL says to keep the peace and don’t say anything.

Now my mom knows about this baby shower incident along with all the other ones too and this was the last straw for my mom and she doesn’t want anything to do with my MIL but will play nice. She says if my MIL begins to be controlling or mean to my mom then she’s backing out fully. I hate this. I wish I never asked my MIL to help plan my shower and it was only my mom and best friend. Now I feel it’s too late to change my word. And I’m feeling confused on how to split up planning a baby shower between 3 people.