Trust Issues

Victoria

Hey ladies I need some advice. I was in a really toxic relationship for 7 years. We’ve been broken up for almost two years now. I thought I was fully healed until I started dating a really amazing guy. I’ve realized that I still have really bad trust issues from being cheating on and lied to so much that I can’t trust my partner now. He’s a bartender at a strip club and it was okay at first. I used to dance there but stopped for him. I didn’t realize dating a bartender in a strip club comes with a lot of female attention for him. Sometimes the friendliness and closeness he has with these girls it brings up old emotions from my last toxic relationship since he had lots of girl friends that he ended up cheating on me with. And since him & I met there I get scared that he’s gonna meet another girl there. My friend who works there told me a girl hugged him and kissed him on the cheek. I just feel like that’s too much closeness to be kissed on the cheek. Maybe I tripping? Idk. We talked about it and he really just thinks that I’m overreacting. If I do continue to stay with him I have to just trust him and put aside his friendliness with these girls. Where do I start healing from my trust issues? So I don’t bring in old problems into a new relationship. If that makes sense..