What would you do?

Most of my life my parents have been divorced. So I’ve been used to constantly jumping around on holidays in one day to accommodate everyone. Now I’m married and we have to go to my in laws as well. 3 places in one day. Sometimes my family gets sad I don’t spend enough time at each of their houses. I’m so tired of it. I can’t delegate a holiday to each family member because my husband is severely allergic to nuts. I think my moms side may understand but my dads side has an insane amount of people and we just can’t avoid cross contamination or questionable ingredients. We always start at my in laws so my husband can eat and then we spend 2 hours at each place. It’s so exhausting.

We have a baby on the way too. I really just want to say to everyone. When the baby is born we’ll be spending the holidays at home. Anyone is welcome to join but we want quality family time. I just know it’s going to irritate many and I don’t know what to do. I’m not comfortable bringing my baby 3 different places with over 60 people.

What would you do?