I’m trying to work things out with my partner of 7 years. We have a 7 month old together.

We broke up when my son was 3 months old and spent time apart and have since tried to repair things. When we broke up it’s like a switch flipped in him. He is the most loving, caring man in the whole wide world, he does everything to accommodate me (I’ve suffered bad ppd)

If this was the man I always had this wouldn’t even be a question, he does everything to be the perfect partner.

I’m having trouble forgiving and moving on from past hurt though.

He always made fun of my weight, made me feel bad when I would eat and was always so harsh towards me (I’m 175cm and was 68kg so in fairly ok shape). His negative comments took a toll on me and I suffered bulimia for a year to try and measure up (which I recovered from before I was pregnant).

He had a busy social life and always left me at home on my own and I was incredibly lonely. He refused to spend any time with my family so for the past 7 years I attended every family birthday, dinner, event on my own and had to make up excuses as to why he’s never there.

He’s done a complete 180 and is the man I’ve always wanted him to be. But some of the things said and done stuck in my head and still pain me. The times he was drunk and called me a fat b*tch, the years prior to getting pregnant where he would say I would make a horrible mother. It’s been 4 months of working it out and although he is being as wonderful as he can be, I can’t get over the hurt. I was never strong enough to leave and now there is a child involved. Will these feelings go away or am I better to move on?