I’m hoping someone experienced in this issue or is just better at negotiating and putting my frustration into better words I can use to help my relationship constructively.

I ( F22 ) have been in a LDR for 6/7 months with my amazing boyfriend ( M22 ) our relationship is perfect in every way outside of the bed room. I feel like we are not compatible sexually and I express my needs to him and he really does try but I feel so unwanted since I put a lot of value in sex in my life. Especially being long distance I really would like to come back after being gone for weeks and him not be able to stop touching me sexually.

He’s shy, uneducated , and not confident and he agrees he wishes he could be better for me.

He gets shy and turns around when I change , won’t “start” anything unless I’m really throwing an attitude about it. He would rather let me “ do it myself “ than join in. He’s not doing it out of malice I just think he’s scared (?) I enjoy cream pies , he refuses to cum in me even if we use a condom, 95% of the time I get him off more than 5 /6 times the week I do see him and maybe I get 1 ..

I have a high sex drive and really do feel unwanted and he does want to try new things and feels bad I really don’t know how to get over feeling unwanted and rejected in that sense.. I need good sex and I want him and only him I just idk what to do this isn’t an issue I’ve experienced before.

He is on the spectrum ( not confirmed by a doctor and every high functioning but there’s traits) and I’ve never dealt with this issue before and he doesn’t know where to begin..

please help I do love this man I just want a middle ground where I feel wanted and he is more comfortable